Are you stuck or unstoppable?
A wise sage once said, "I am invincible as long as I'm alive..." or was that John Mayer?
Deep breath in, now you say it:
"I am unstoppable when I know what I want and why." -Magley
Whether one person or one thousand, as a professional speaker and high performance coach, it always gives me the chills hearing people claim this truth. This mantra (and a set of questions) came to me while prepping to speak at an event for women business owners last year.
Rather than doing a keynote for 45 minutes I had been given the "go" to lead the 150 women in small group work that asked unconventional questions. As they did that morning, these three questions will immediately reveal if you are stuck or unstoppable.
1. Would money solve my problem?
Instantly, you are given that dollar amount to get out of personal debt, market your company, or take the dream vacation. Now what? Is the problem still there?
The quick fix or first answer to the problem is typically not the only or best solution. As Michael Bungay Stanier put's it in "The Coaching Habit":
"Focus on solving the real problem, not just the first problem."-Stanier
Take Action: Use your imagination. Envision scenarios where your perceived problem is solved then poke holes in that solution. The best innovators and problem solvers never stop asking these tough questions.
2. What is my greatest need?
This question has left many coaching clients breathless. It is a completely undirected question that hits the target every time. Typically it is answered, unsurprisingly, with another question of "What do you mean?" It is a literal inquiry with a tangible answer. In fact, the vast majority of people do not know or are not ready for what they "need" as they lack the vision to scale.
Take Action: Take a moment to identify what your greatest need is and write it down. According to Dr. Gail Matthews, a psychology professor at the Dominican University in California:
"You become 42% more likely to achieve your goal and dreams, simply by writing them down on a regular basis." -Matthews
3. Is it possible that the obstacle is the way?
In giving over 60 talks in the last nine months I've learned one thing fast: the obstacle looks different depending on who you are. Where one sees a stop sign another sees a green light.
What does it look like if that mountain in your way is actually THE way?
Take Action: Write out all of the reasons why you might not succeed. Now, write out all of the reasons why you can and what makes you different. *Spoiler Alert-They are the same reasons.
In 1937 Napoleon Hill jumpstarted the self development revolution with his book "Think & Grow Rich." In it he coined the now iconic quote, "Whatever the mind can conceive and believe it can achieve." Knowing what you want and believing it is possible are the first two steps in seeing your vision become a reality. Success is inevitable when you know where you want to go and why.
Jennifer Magley is a former professional athlete, speaker, author, and High Performance Coach. More information can be found at www.magleyjennifer.com